Today I’d like we stop to think about the source of your kid’s wellness. We’re going to talk about it in a broad sense, and in future posts we’ll focus just in the clothing’s role. I want to apology to make a zoom out from our main idea, but I think it’s necessary to create a context; and I do also think it’ll be really interesting to you.
Since you bring your child into the world you’ve been trying to supply their needs, that they feel happy and also beloved ¿right? You’ve been in charge of feeding them, of washing them up and offering them your affection. You’ve played with them, you’ve read books together and they’ve thrown their pacifiers away a thousand times and you’ve picked them up, washed them and given them back a thousand more.
If you pay attention, what has characterized the first months of your children’s life is that you’ve been ensuring their wellness. They are dependent on you. You’ve protected them from hitting and falling, you’ve foreseen their needs before they knew they could have them. Their wellbeing comes from you, it comes from the exterior.
In the same way that your little ones learn to move, to speak and to eat independently gradually, they can also learn that they can be the source of their own wellness.
Obviously the process will be slow and they’ll do it progressively, but see how they can take care of themselves would give you a huge satisfaction ¿am I right?
Like everything in this life it’s a matter of beginning.
I imagine that you’re wondering what the best moment to start is. The ideal is that you take advantage of the beginning of the “no” stage, that it usually starts between the eighteenth and the twenty-fourth month.
It’s important that these changes are in tune with the maturational times of your kids. In other words, that your children are ready to face these new challenges and to accept them in a positive way. Your kids’ growth and their development are not a competition, pressing them to do some things before the other kids it’s not relevant, what you should be interested in is that they do these things when they’re ready and that they see those achievements as personal accomplishments. In this way, the learning will be positive for them, they will embrace it correctly and they’ll live it fully.
And what is actually special about the “no” stage?
This phase it’s important because your babies are becoming toddlers, they understand that they are a different person from you and they start to discover their on individuality. That’s the reason why this is a good moment to start to work together to gradually becoming responsible of their own wellbeing.
With time, your kids should internalize that to get their own wellness they have to dedicate time to themselves. You can start with easy tasks and, whenever they do them right, continue to assuming more responsibilities. If your child see that they’re becoming more independent from you, they’ll keep motivated to learn and, at the same time, you’ll feel freer to the full control you should have of them, and this control will be transformed to a simply supervision.
In the end, it’s a beneficial process for all of you because your duty as a parent is also to understand that your children are going to grow and that their needs are going to change over the years, and as often occurs, time flies.
Ok, yes, it is mea culpa and I accept that I lost track of the conversation.
As stated before, to achieve their own wellness, your kids have to understand that they need to assign time to themselves every day, either time to learn to eat independently or to brushing their teeth. In this point, what it’s interesting is that your children realize that their physical wellness becomes emotional wellbeing. They’re feeling great for having done some things by themselves but at the same time for achieving new goals. Their abilities and skills have been improved, and they have grown with them.
As I told you at the beginning, today we haven’t talked concretely about clothing because I think that before we should reflect about these subjects. As I see it, it is a big introduction and context to, a posteriori, focus on more specific aspects of clothing.
In any case, I hope this post has been of your interest and, as always, your opinion is really important to me, so I’m all ears.
We’ll meet on the comments below.
All the best,